While we all set out with the goal of finding that special someone and having a loving family, occasionally, this might not work out the first time. Yes, many of us manage to achieve that, but, for whatever reason, there also exists the sad truth that some people do experience life as a single parent – hopefully, not forever – but it’s important to know how to deal with this role, to ensure the best possible upbringing for your kids, and to still enjoy some me-time. It’s about finding the right balance and what works for you, so here are just a few tips.
Try to maintain a good relationship with your ex
This can be easier said than done, depending on why you separated. Nevertheless, no matter whether you hate your ex or the splitting-up is amicable, remember to be grown-ups here and think about your children. Whilst you may have split from your other half, your children shouldn’t be forced to choose a side and deserve a great family life. There is so much advice out there about co-parenting and that’s far less stressful than going through a court case and applying for custody. What’s more, if you develop a routine where your kids spend some days with you and others with your ex, that immediately frees time for you.
Don’t be afraid to date
Just because one relationship didn’t work, that does not mean that you should give up trying to find that special someone. Your soulmate might just be around the corner. Obviously, being a single parent will reduce the time you have to go out and meet people but there are plenty of ways to get out there while respecting your new role as a single parent. For example, you could create a profile on a dating app or website. Online dating insights provide the advice needed to get you started and you can get to know a potential date by messaging beforehand; there’s no obligation to continue the relationship if you don’t feel the situation is right.
Be organised with your domestic life
It’s important to remember that, as well as working and taking care of your children, there is no longer your other half to help with household chores, so everything falls on you. Don’t let this bring you down though. It’s all about being organized. Create a checklist every day of things that need doing and encourage your kids to help out by making household chores fun or perhaps incentivise them with reward charts. Whatever way works for you and your family. It may take time but, once you have a system underway, it will be easier to find time for yourself. Don’t be afraid to get groceries delivered for example and to ask friends for help either.
Of course, there’s no denying that being a single parent is hard and that, to begin with, the whole situation is a shock. With these simple tips though, you can start to move on with your life and be the best parent ever, single or not.